Not to be outdone by their male counterparts, the ladies have echoed the longstanding tradition of the bachelor party with their own get-together: the bachelorette party. This seemingly new event also has its roots in history. Years ago it was traditional for the bride to host a bridesmaids’ tea — a girls only, very prim and proper event.
Typically, the maid of honor or the bride’s sister hosts the party. The event-planning can be really creative with this party because it’s a relatively-new addition to the pre-wedding party list and there have been no firm traditions set. Although the party may be held at any time before the wedding, for easy of scheduling the bachelorette party is often planned to follow the wedding shower, bridging one event into the other.
The bachelorette party is an opportunity for brides and their bridal party to spend a night on the town or a cozy evening at home. The first round of bachelorette parties was fashioned much after the “original” bachelor party and focused on drinking, carousing and behaving much like teenagers. In the same way that the bachelor party seems to have matured, bachelorette parties have done so as well. Perhaps this is because both the guys and the girls discovered that getting hung-over was a really bad idea, especially on the day before one’s wedding. The guys settled down and so did their female counterparts.
Some bachelorettes still go out drinking with the girls, but usually they are savvy enough to appoint a designated driver or hire a limousine. These events have taken on a new, more creative spin. Theme parties held at local night spots offer healthy fun with no morning after regrets. Comedy clubs literally offer a good laugh, while sports bars let the party include billiards or pool.
Some brides and their bridal party go a step “backwards” and plan an old-fashioned pajama party. It is, after all, probably the last time that the bachelorette and her girlfriends can “hang out” in quite that way. Everyone has fond memories of a long night, lying on pillows and mats, chatting and giggling.
Yet a more sophisticated approach to the bachelorette party is a day at a local spa, complete with aromatherapy, massage, pedicure, manicure, facial and other pampering goodies. For the more rugged types, brides and their friends have taken the party outdoors and spent a day (and night) camping, hiking, and even mountain climbing.
The bachelorette party has come into its own and is become really great way to create another lovely wedding memory.
As with every one of the events and factors that become part of the wonderful “We’re Getting Married” puzzle, it’s important always to keep in mind the objective. In the case of the many options for pre-wedding parties, the idea is to have fun and celebrate the happy occasion with friends and family. Formality may be pushed aside, but proper rules of conduct to ensure that nobody’s feelings are hurt, always hold true.
Have Fun and Happy Partying!