Planning a wedding involves months of work and a long list of tasks which needed to be completed. Regardless of how capable the bride and her mother may be, there are times when a helping hand would prove invaluable.
The rule of thumb is “Don’t be afraid to ask.” Especially friends and family who have previously been involved in planning a wedding, people who care about you will be pleased to help. There is a long list of responsibilities and tasks that can be delegated to others without your losing control of the overall plan. It will be your job to make a list and match the tasks to people for whom the task won’t prove daunting.
Once your list is completed, it’s time to make the calls. Be gracious. Explain that you will understand being turned down and explain that you’d rather a “no” up front than an uncompleted assignment later. It’s a good idea to give the assignee a date-of-completion and to check up every so often to make sure there are no glitches. Remember to be specific when handing out assignments and to make certain that the task and its details are understood. You know best what kind of a wedding you are having, so you are the best judge of what to include in your list.
This list can serve as a beginning point for you:
- After-wedding cleanup
- Airport pickup and drop off of guests
- Babysitting and entertainment of children at the ceremony and reception venues
- Baking the cake
- Chairs and tables setup
- Checking on restroom baskets, religious items, seat reservation cards, etc.
- Delivery of gifts to the couple’s home
- Delivery of guest baskets to the hotels
- Deposit of gift checks in the bank
- Special transportation (vintage cars, etc.)
- Confirmation and “on schedule calls
- Collection of disposable cameras
- Babysitting the couple’s children during the honeymoon
- House-sitting during your honeymoon
- Pet-sitting during your honeymoon
- Distribution of party favors
- Guest pickup at the house of worship or ceremony and drop off at the reception venue
- Guest pick up from and drop off at hotels
- Party decoration
- Preparation of party favors
- Invitation hand or computer calligraphy
- Food preparation
- Returning rentals (tuxedos, chairs, tables, etc.)
- Serving of food
- Preparation of desserts
Asking for help is not an admission of inadequacy. Instead it is a way to ease the burden on yourself and including family and friends in your special day.